Some emotional musings

First itself, let me admit that I dont know this movie name or the name of the actors in this movie, but I wanted to write about this movie because it was a question  of "when is the time to let go?"  that got posted throughout this movie.  Sitting in a hotel room on a Saturday with no appointments and with severe tooth ache, it was left to do channel surfing for me to pass the day.  So thats how I started watching this movie which turned out to very emotional for me

The setting is a family consisting of 3 children - the second child being a cancer patient.  The 3rd girl is a perfect match donor for her elder daughter and has already undergone a lot of surgeries for the sake of her sister.  The mother is a fierce parent always fighting for her daughter's survival even at the cost of the other family members.   So the younger daughter who is just 11 year old goes to court saying that She has a say whether she can donate her kidneys or not, which is crucial for her sisters survival This is because the elder sister requests her to let her die peacefully and not to donate.  Very nicely portrayed family drama - where even the doctor says that the child can be taken home for some quality time before she dies, the mother insists that the daughter be kept in the hospital for the next surgery so that she can survive for some more time.  Here is the dilemma of when to let go of her daughter to die peacefully comes. 

Can a mother ever give up hope that her child cannot survive - I dont think so.   

 I was reminded of the kind of similar situation one of my relatives had - They had a son who was suffering from the disease whose name I dont know where the muscles becomes wasted one by one and so the movement becomes restricted.  Through all that she was going on wanting him to read his lessons with the hope that if a cure is found out and her son survives, then he should not be left without an education.  Finally the boy died.  Of course, it was a blessed relief for the son as well as the mother as she was suffering from seeing her son suffering.   Be a mother or a father - it is very difficult position to be in - when your own offspring is suffering there is nothing you can do about it.

Whatever may be the age, it is very difficult to see your children die before you which is very very tragic isnt.  In our residential complex, a month ago, a 27 year old died.  He was living in Boston, and it took his body 6 days to reach home where his aged parents of 60+ and his grandma of 83 was waiting to see his face one last time.  There are no words to comfort these people.   The whole family is plunged into grief.  

Death is so final and though we know it, we still go on as if we are going to be everliving - fighting amongst ourselves over petty things, postponing doing all good deeds, serving the society thinking that it is now our prime time to earn and there will come a time for me to do the good deeds, etc.....  As Dharma replied to the Yaskaka - The most funny thing is even when we see death all around us, we still think we are above it and carry on the life with no remorse.